The Secret Sauce For Self-confident Public Speaking

Join me as I illustrate how familiarity with your topic, paired with genuine enthusiasm, can turn even the most introverted individuals into eloquent speakers. Through anecdotes about incessant cat lovers, proud mothers, and sports-obsessed grandparents, you'll see how passion for a subject makes words flow effortlessly. This is not about imagining your audience in their underwear but about embracing what you know and love. Whether you're gearing up for a big presentation or looking to improve everyday conversations, there's something here for every aspiring orator.

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Speaker 1 0:00

Here for the memories thought-provoking audio memoir shorts filled with stories , humor , anecdotes and commentary on social , cultural , business and religious issues . Whatever Lyndon remembers and thinks will entertain , challenge and inform is a possible subject . The collection of memories about one's life allows for the development and refinement of a sense of self , including who one is , how one has changed and what one might be like in the future .

Speaker 2 0:35

Greetings and salutations . This is Lyndon Wolfe and you have providentially found my audio memoir here for the memories , a podcast . It's me sharing about my life , my experiences , my opinions , for those that love me and even for those who don't , if they want to listen . Usually people who don't love you don't want to listen to you , but that's really not the point here . Anyway , I I'm glad you you dropped by and I hope you do want to listen to me and maybe hope you love me .

Speaker 2 1:05

Today we're going to talk about public speaking . I've entitled this the Secret Sauce of Self-Confident Public Speaking . That sounds like a massive oxymoron . People detest speaking in public . When people are polled about the things that they fear the most , the list typically looks like this Number one , snakes . Number two , public speaking . Number three , debt , which means that people would rather die than speak in public . I find that ironic in that most all speaking is in public . But I digress .

Speaker 2 1:52

Why such nauseating dread to utter words that others can hear ? We do it daily , don't we ? Why does the term speech elicit such strong negative emotions ? I'm not totally sure , but what I do promise you is that I won't mention imagining the audience as naked as a possible solution to the mortified paralysis that you might experience while giving a speech . Nor will I tell you that leading with a story or anecdote will go a long way in capturing the audience's attention . So here is my secret sauce to aid in overcoming the fear of public speaking , you have to have two elements primarily Knowledge and emotional attachment , which is passion . If you have those two things , you should be fine . You give someone a topic they know nothing about and engenders no passion . All they can think of is their trepidation of looking like an idiot , which , by the way , is probably what causes them to look like an idiot . Someone recently told me and this is kind of a side issue that I was making them . But back to speaking .

Speaker 2 3:12

Ask a mother to talk about her son , who just turned three years old , and words flow like water over the cliffs of niagara . Ask a cat lover like my wife . We have total of 13 in the house now . Eight of those are our own and five fosters . Oh , and the five fosters , five tiny all-black siblings that we call by the colors of their collars , since they are indistinguishable . Anyway , she can talk endlessly and fluently about her latest rescue or the new foster family she just found . She can appear to be a subject matter expert by calling herself an allurophile . Allurophile , that's a cat lover , and she is a subject matter expert , by the way .

Speaker 2 3:59

Ask the shy kid to describe their favorite toy or paw patrol , and you have the otherwise mute demonstrate unequal prolixity . Ask the typically reserved grandmother by the way , side issue , my grandfather name is Grandest , Grandest . Thought of it myself . I'm sure that's surprising to you . Anyway , you ask the reserved grandmother about their grandkids or great-grandkids and you have something akin to a filibuster , and the man a few words becomes loquacious when the Tennessee Vols football team is referenced . What is my point ? The combination of knowledge and passion is 90% of being poised and powerful as a communicator , no matter the size or makeup of the audience . The other 10% is confidence , which is only gained by doing the thing and then doing it again in the end , until it becomes not as frightening and maybe even second nature .

Speaker 2 5:02

During junior high , my parents forced me to do something that I an introvert , as I would later discover abhorred . It was a speech contest . As a seventh grader , there was no other endeavor I could imagine more torturous . Well , there were the six years of piano lessons that ultimately trained me to find middle C and nothing else . But at first I loathed the idea of a public speaking competition . But with the success I had came the awareness that being recognized , even rewarded , for a certain art or skill was good for my self-worth . I won the Optimist Club competition three years running , even though I was the youngest participant in each of those competitions . My final competition , however , was a disappointment , as I placed second to a younger entrant . One of the judges told my father it just didn't seem right for one person me to win every year that they competed . So , abandoning any form of meritocracy , I was relegated to silver medalist and given a trophy that never again saw the light of day . So my love and appreciation of public speaking had been unleashed . I found myself intoxicated with oratory and powerful , persuasive communication . In that context , I even studied great speakers as diverse as Martin Luther King Jr and Adolf Hitler who was , by the way , a brilliant speaker Billy Graham , Winston Churchill and John F Kennedy Jr , who sadly and tragically was assassinated on my third birthday .

Speaker 2 6:40

As you will learn in other episodes , public speaking became an important and transformational part of my life and story . It allowed me to speak with great ease in front of thousands as a mere 18-year-old . My comfort with it allowed me the honor of preaching my mother and dad's funerals and so much more . And if I can do it , I'm convinced anyone can , and that includes you . Knowledge , passion and practice . That's the secret sauce . Or you could just imagine the audience naked . I'm Lyndon Wolfe . This has been here for the Memories . I'm so glad you joined and heard a little bit about my thoughts on public speaking and some experiences surrounding that issue . Come visit again . Love having company .

Speaker 1 7:48

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